His thought is, "I'll go my way and she can go her way." To be sure, not all men act that badly, and I am making that assertion. His frustrated mom was probably working all of the time, and good ole' dad was MIA. Thus, the male gatherer had no positive role models to teach him what it means to become a grown-up.
What I am saying is, our permissive society has created the "male gatherer" who does not understand why love and commitment actually matter. Consequently, he remains self-serving his entire life.
So naturally, it behooves the woman to shift her focus toward worthwhile men who actually enjoy pursuing a woman, who exhibit patience and caring, and who are willing to ignore the trend that presupposes men and women are exactly the same in every way. Our bodies are different, our brains are wired differently, we communicate differently, we have different mannerisms, and in some cases, we have unique needs.
But the male gatherer would have you believe this cannot be true as that would not be fair or equal Long story short, women must become adept at letting the male gatherer go.
She doesn't have to become a man to be "equal." We are all equal by virtue of our humanity. He was highly educated, but the gatherer/hippie mentality never really left him.
Once a woman has determined she is interested in someone, she is free to capture his attention. She does not rush into a situation without first finding out what she is getting into.
She learns to make better choices, always with long term consequences in mind.
Thus, having experienced disappointment in dating for the umpteenth time, many women carry around a perpetual cloud of frustration and anger.
Nevertheless, not wanting to appear passive, women continue the hunt. "If we wait, nothing happens." "What choice do we have? The easy love thing works for him, but it isn't working for her. Unwed mothers who struggle to raise their children without father's know this better than anyone.
On an intuitive level, this essence is still alive today.