This kind of fearful hemming and hawing isn't how Christians should do things. I'm not saying that in deference to antiquated courtship rituals. You need a passion, something that excites you and gives your life meaning and purpose.
It should be something thrilling and at least a little daunting.
Being honest and bold about your feelings doesn't come off as cheesy if you have self-confidence. It shows that getting rejected won't devastate you because you know and like who you are.
The alternative to this is "hanging out" with someone and hoping to catch a lucky break.
While I was doing research for , the biggest complaint I heard from Christian women was that Christian men weren't assertive enough.
If it doesn't work out, God's love will take care of you far more than the love of any human on earth.I don't care if you're the most self-confident, well-adjusted person around; rejection hurts. So instead of asking the person on a date, you go on approximations of dates that allow for plausible deniability of all romantic intentions. Fear of rejection alone has resulted in the proliferation of Starbucks like a French-roasted virus.It makes the remaining friendship awkward at best, and humiliating at worst. People suffer through this in the hope that the object of their affection will eventually buckle and reveal his or her true feelings. They keep making up excuses to hang out, hedging all their bets and waiting for God to give them a sign.Let’s face it – putting yourself out there isn’t always easy, and going on bad date after bad date can take a toll on your psyche.So, how you do survive dating without ending up in years of therapy?
That takes a lot more time and trouble to get what usually turns out to be the same result.